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Explorations in human behavior: The Science continues: Gently Into the realms of Narcissistic behavior

It is a moment to reflect on the work that has been done, specifically in developing further understandings pertaining to narcissistic, even psychopathic behavior. The Science of Inner Strength has its jumping off point, its pushing back point from those elements of that very extreme behavior. Narcissistic mentalities AND behaviors entail essentially a very limited perspective on the world, rather one dimensional. It is almost like a door into a dark room that is not fully open.

The question among others that I am researching is essentially can a narcissist be reached in any meaningful kind of way? Is there are way to penetrate through the veneer and walls of that narrow perspective to reach a person at a point of empathy? My theory is that every human being has needs; every human being has a point from which they can and must be reached. It takes an incredibly patient amount of gently working with and attempting to break down that nihilistic narrow viewpoint.

I am not certain that it can be done. It would be groundbreaking to do so.

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Having taken on evil and emerged the better

That may be the calling card of my life. It seems on some level, I was called to actually take on societal evil, AND look it square in the eye. There is nothing in the world like battling true evil; I do not know everything, but I know that that is true. Evil will attempt to fold, spindle and mutilate reason, logic and decency.

It is true that I emerged much the better for that twenty one year process, not only alive to tell the story, but with an agenda to help the world as well. There are very few people, who could really go through the process that I did. It is truly a special badge of honor to have battled on that core level, and be positioned to deliver something of societal good. I am grateful for that entire process, as truly challenging at it was.

While parts of society do not want to hear the “evil” word; I feel like it is my responsibility to say that it exists, to define it, and develop remedies. Thanks, Jon

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The World's Best Mediator

The World's Best Mediator

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A “fascinating” little run here, like the NCAA’s I suppose, lol

Yes, in developing The Science of Inner Strength, I have worked on a most vexing situation. The last few days, it seems to have taken a rather “fascinating” turn. The general principle is understanding human behavior in the context of conflict; especially if and when extreme narcissistic or even psychopathic behavior is in play. This is the new psychology as I reference, the capacity to understand human behavior in this day and age, when we are unduly affected by those with these type of narcissistic personality disorders.

I do not know everything, but I know that my work and my science is a major advancement in these areas. To really understand what is going on in the culture requires an understanding of these most challenging of personality types AND accompanying behavior. Accompanying these notions are how easily people can be confused and or misled, especially with the overall confusion level generated by these types of personalities and their behaviors. I seem to have penetrated below the surface of a group behavioral pattern , in the effort to find the aberrational source.

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Heroic, in the sense

That I have stood for the right thing, in the midst of an unfathomable storm, due to circumstances beyond my control; well for literally like “decades.” That is, I suppose, God’s way of testing us, to the depth of our beliefs. Today, I will once again declare victory. I mean, I stood so long and so hard for the positive things that I believe in, that it must be relatively clear that I would and will not give, so long as I have breath in me.

Maybe that was the nature of the test itself: To discover those beliefs AND hang on to them, irrespective of how wet, wild and rambunctious it got. Yesterday, in some ways was a metaphor, as I headed out in the midst of a blizzard towards a mailbox. Yes, I did get there. It reminds me of days, went I drove through tornado weather to get to my son, or walked in five hours of rain, and other extraordinary challenges to the elements. Today, I feel good about it; and if anyone ask, downright heroic!

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Gosh darn heroic

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The World's Best Mediator

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Spontaenous evil, even unintentional evil.

As I work my way through a truly defining mediation saga, I am moved to an understanding that virtually through a spontaneous combustion, or perfect storm type of event, an evil was created. In other words, several nefarious energies collided and/or collected in one place, and created an evil, perhaps with the intention on none of their parts, to create an evil.

Part of the Science of Inner Strength encompasses the notion that virtually like chemicals human behaviors can collide to create actions and reactions that are different than one person may do on their own. Then after colliding at that place, people may come to understand that the impact of their collective action was much greater than their original intention. So, I as study these behaviors, I can see that their collision may have amounted to evil, without the specific intention on anyone’s part that evil was being created. In the long run, very few people want to be associated with evil, and under the light of day, will retreat from the position.

Well, interesting work for a Saturday.

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The journey vontinues

Amazing; some winds of change are blowing, seemingly for the great. I am thankful for all my experiences. Surely on some level the laboratory work for The Science of Inner Strength is putting things to the test to the nth degree. It makes sense if you are really going to be in the position to help people one must be sure that the methods are true and tested. Certain matters  I have worked on seem ready to grow. Once we do the work we must let go. I came to a new torn in a twenty one year matter of reaesrch; so let’s see how it all unfolds. That is one of the wonderful journeys of my life; the embracing of trust. On an even deeper sense so much of society is based on fear.

It does seem daunting to attempt to turn all of society into a trusting place; yet that seems to be my mission. At least I can visualize that type of mission. God calls us for all kinds of things. Humanity seems to be my calling!

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The new psychology

Underpinning the Science of Inner Strength is an understanding of what I would deem the real psychology of today. The real psychology does not have to do with assessments of peoples’ brains and thought processes as much, as it has to do with understanding the facets of deep narcissism and even psychopathic behavior.

The pandemic of hurtful behavior, negativity and hatred in this day and age, for one has to do with learned behavior, with respect to those in leadership teaching people that is okay or even good to be mean, which it surely is not. The other thing has to do with a related topic of a deep narcissism that upholds a vicious and narrow view. My work has focused on for one, understanding that prevalent narcissism, AND also getting at the roots of those who are so hurt or impaired, so as to adopt these relatively vicious views.

Without understanding these types of mindsets, which precious few in the areas of traditional psychology really do; people are not likely to understand what is going on in the culture.

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