Creating a Compassionate Divorce Community

What a wonderful day, in the neighborhood(s)

admin — Tue, 02 Apr 2019 15:40:39 +0000

The World's Best Mediator, Jon Myers

Patience and perseverance

admin — Tue, 19 Mar 2019 14:17:55 +0000

March 18, 2019: A wonderful day in Newton, MA

admin — Mon, 18 Mar 2019 16:39:32 +0000

A wonderful day for pierogies

admin — Tue, 05 Mar 2019 21:47:11 +0000

Pierogies are dough flavored pockets of potatoes; a treat from my Northeastern Pennsylvania roots, with a Polish emphasis. In many years gone by, the pierogies I had on rare occasions, were homemade by a faithful near family member. These pierogies are store bought, and for some reason really hit the spot. It is kind of like a pierogie type of day. If you have not had a pierogie, pan-fried with butter or oil, and sometimes with onion, I suppose; I heartily recommend a pierogie for you, if that is at all you type of thing.

Sometimes, we must drift with the pierogie type of day; at least part of it, as it has been twenty-three years here, and some quietness and patience are well in order. Patience builds confidence; as our actions are less consumed, with acting and reacting every moment, and allowing the fill of all of those years of effort add up. That is what these pierogies mean to me today, and for that I am ever thankful. Winter is hanging on, which is good for warm coats.

A breakthough in understanding emotional abuse: The element of emotional parasitism

admin — Wed, 06 Feb 2019 18:43:28 +0000

God only knows, why I was called for some tasks. It seems like the most grimy on some level, is understanding the element of emotional abuse. One breakthrough concept I came in touch with today on a deeper level; is the facet of parasitic behavior. The emotional abuser in many ways, attaches themselves to another human being, by creating a relationship or conflict, really of their own doing. The mainly innocent person then, finds themselves virtually or even literally trapped in the situation. You know the adage of: “Don’t wrestle with a pig in the mud, because you will get dirty and the pig loves it.” Except sometimes, with respect to emotional abuse it is not so easy to get away. The very things, we rightfully cherish the most, relating to home, children, finances, are being eerily attacked, and we are being made to be an equal or worse combatant in the situation.

Such a thing can be enormously exasperating and painful. The identification of this parasitic like behavior is crucial to a healthy society, because we deserve reason. Thanks.

A beautiful day :)

admin — Fri, 25 Jan 2019 17:06:51 +0000

Defeating Abuse of ALL kinds and standing for decency

admin — Wed, 09 Jan 2019 15:40:40 +0000

Facets of my life and work have veered, at least for the moment to understanding and defeating abuse, especially in the emotional and psychological realms. Those types of abuse are not understood well by society, and are both more prevalent and harmful than people surmise. In particular I am working on developing understandings of the nature of abuse itself, with respect to how people do it, why they do it, and what defines an abusive situation.

ALL of my work in the best sense is building the opposite of abuse, which is decency and understanding and those types of things. I am grateful at every point of my life, to have the opportunity to develop such a science. Our human existence is at a challenging point these days. While I respect all of the positive agendas out there, with respect to the environment, justice reform, and kinds of other issues, for me it is about building a positive human conversation, for if we cannot talk to one another, how can we then resolve things.

Every day is a new day.

Ty

admin — Wed, 26 Dec 2018 20:00:45 +0000

False definition: A “fascinating” facet of emotional abuse: Towards a decent society

admin — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 00:07:33 +0000

For those who wonder, a major facet of developing the Science of Inner Strength, has to do with have extensively experienced AND studied emotional abuse. This vastly unknown quantity, acts with retribution and impunity in our society. One of the key cruel tools of emotional/psychological abuse is the interest on the part of the abuser, in falsely defining another person or persons. It is in this way that an abuser can falsely elevate themselves and satiate the true sense of inferiority that in the deepest places they feel.

So, in order to falsely elevate themselves in sick and sadistic ways, they will denigrate and attempt to falsely define others. This false sense of superiority is the disease of our times, I believe. So bloodthirsty, in a desperate sense is such a person that they will wield their opinion like a whip, irrespective of the pain and trauma they inflict on others. It is this sense of almost being right as well; that makes these people so hard to detect. Compassionate genius is about detecting this behavior and helping society overall.

Discernment for challenging times: Not right and wrong: Right and almost right

admin — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 21:17:10 +0000

I read a wonderful quote recently, as to the power of discernment. The quote stated that discernment was “not the difference between right and wrong, but the difference between right and almost right.” That seems like a potentially potent concept for these most challenging of times. It is relatively easy to know the difference between right and not right. In these times, where there is so much information and people expressing their opinions, the harder concept is really to discern between what is right and what is almost right.

Being almost right is easy. You have a sense of what most people will say, and then say something that is somewhat along those lines, and you are just about there. To be accurate, to gauge what is actually happening in situations, is a much more difficult task. That is the work of genius, or at least wisdom. Being right means going the extra mile, finding the real answer to situations. Implicit is the sense that a person, will care, when they make the journey into accuracy. Thank you for today.