Creating a Compassionate Divorce Community

On the trail, in wonderful Newton, with love and thanks to all

admin — Wed, 14 Nov 2018 14:56:03 +0000

Ahh, the old sideways picture, on a “crisp” day, as a nice woman mentioned to me: Peace out people

admin — Mon, 05 Nov 2018 16:00:21 +0000

Our current legal system, and related matters

admin — Tue, 23 Oct 2018 18:08:32 +0000

My personal experience, pertaining to our divorce system and that kind of thing; along with having experienced intensive emotional abuse emanating from my own family of origin; speaks profoundly to the need for society to wake-up in some ways. That is the beauty of my story: It is that things being amiss in greater and lesser ways in society accumulated into a perfect storm of events. I choose to see that perfect storm, as a divine calling, or blessing even. I was deemed as strong enough to withstand that type of collective insanity being directed at me. Like a sculptor I suppose, I was given so much raw claw, to shape something new and beautiful.

We cannot underestimate how parts of society, beginning specifically with divorce and including things such as police, lawyers, judges, the whole nine yards is geared to proffer from what is really other peoples’ fall down, especially as it regards children and families. I say what I say with a ton of love for America and its legal system, police and lawyers. We must love families.

What became OF me, is greater than what happened TO me: Embracing my story:With love.

admin — Wed, 10 Oct 2018 16:10:57 +0000

Whatever happens in my life; the last thirty years or so, surely the past twenty-three have been an enormous unfolding. Assaulted outrageously, by some of those closest to me; it became a matter of what the greater cosmos had in store for me. The situation became a matter of my holding onto the principles and values that were dearest to me, AND allowing life to work its course upon me. As I fought for the things I believe, with good purpose, perhaps the even larger story was how I began and continued to change as a man and a human being. The analogy of a diamond being coal under pressure surely applied.

So, while a lot of my effort has been to develop methods and perspectives to help the world, perhaps the biggest thing was the effect of change on me, and what God and/or the universe has in store for me. The sheer magnitude of emotional abuse and challenge that I faced makes me a survivor of extraordinary degree: That is enough for the moment. Thank you to ALL.

Kavanaugh, Me too, and Abuse

admin — Sat, 29 Sep 2018 17:25:14 +0000

With the major movement going on in our country right now, for me it still boils down to a basic human issue: The right of ALL people irrespective of gender, ethnicity, race, sexual preference and so on to live freely and free from abuse for sure. What women, are bringing to the table points to a particular problem in society with respect to sexual abuse and assault; AND also points to an even larger societal issue, that of living free from abuse in any form.

My work delves into what is the psyche of any human being who would seek to “impose” an unfair advantage on another in any form, physically, sexually or emotionally. Virtually all abuse really occurs from the standpoint of weakness, combined with unfair advantage and then horrifically the willingness to use that unfair advantage. Women are right to want a world where they are free of sexual abuse and assault of any kind. We also as a society must get at the component of abuse in any form that involves humans harming one another. Thanks, Jon

The unbelievable nature of my story

admin — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 17:19:44 +0000

I do not know everything, but I know that I have been through one of the all-time true stories, whether it is ever seen as such I cannot know. It is as if a cyclone of unprecedented proportions attacked my life; AND in true Science of Inner Strength fashion, it gave me the opportunity to grow and change in unfathomable ways. Still, every now and then, it is worthy to step back and assess what has happened, as a phenomenon unto itself. The perfect storm if you will, was just a startling constellation of circumstances beyond my control, from divorce law, to an unhinged familial situation, to more and more and more.

On some level, the salient thing is to look at the net effect of ALL of it, on me as a person. To say that the effect on me, was humongous, and like night and day, would be an understatement. Such a storm provides us with an opportunity to grow and change. This is where the Science of Inner Strength and accompanying purpose comes in; by developing character.

Corporate tax forms in

admin — Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:56:43 +0000

Yes

Wishing the best for ALL

admin — Thu, 06 Sep 2018 13:41:54 +0000

I am grateful that my life has grown in a way that if I encounter a challenge or even a rare conflict; on some level, I mainly want the best for all parties. The realms of understanding and compassion have entered my life; to see that people acting unreasonably, mainly have deep pain and/or problems of their own, and along with preserving my own interest, in the main, I do not wish to add any additional pain to them. It is a duality, as in sometimes, people who act so hurtfully do not know better and cannot stop it.

While these lack of understandings do not excuse peoples’ behavior, it does allow for more creative solutions to emerge, more than just a “me vs. you” type of dynamic. Everybody wants the same basic needs of success and recognition; it is just hat some people are not emotionally developed to the point of pursuing these things in a healthy manner. The role of a mediator can account for these type of things. Restorative, rather than punitive justice can bring great resolutions.

A gut check reveals the rightness of my cause

admin — Fri, 24 Aug 2018 16:17:35 +0000

I dug deep today, and reflected on the journey that has brought me to this point. Buried deep inside me, was a sense that I am really fighting for freedom and justice and those kinds of things. While, intellectually and more I have believed that; it was further reassuring on another level, to realize that however challenging it can be, I am truly fighting for basic American values of liberty and justice. You see, there are facets of our society and legal system that have gotten challenged and moved away from our cherished American principles.

It is not easy; there are surely moments where one can question the scope of the journey; yet this understanding today, added a layer of clarity to my mind. A step back from the fray, I am grateful to see that there is both a true merit to what I am doing; AND enormous obstacles in American culture that stand in the way of our society functioning in a fair and egalitarian manner. A false sense of superiority is at the root of those challenges.

It has been a while, dear “little blog:” A moment worthy of celebration

admin — Wed, 22 Aug 2018 13:15:23 +0000

Once derisively referenced as my “little blog;” I find some wonderful solace in my friend this morning. It is a terrific moment to reflect and really celebrate my work, journey and certain results. I have been able to take stands that people only dream about. While I quest for final results and all that; it is a worthy moment to celebrate the struggle itself, as well as what I have become in the process. One cannot really recognize the changes that have occurred, without coming for air, and celebrating in essence.

Whatever comes of it, I have been anchored in tooth and nail battles for peace and justice for “decades” now; and it worth celebrating just that. I must face massive levels of inequality, for as long and hard as I have fought, without reaching certain destinations as of yet. So my work is a huge contribution to chipping away at that iceberg of inequality already, and I must embrace that. Surely too, becoming in the main, a happy, determined, kind person is another true reward. Happy August 22, 2018,

Thanks,

Jon