Creating a Compassionate Divorce Community

Defeating Abuse of ALL kinds and standing for decency

admin — Wed, 09 Jan 2019 15:40:40 +0000

Facets of my life and work have veered, at least for the moment to understanding and defeating abuse, especially in the emotional and psychological realms. Those types of abuse are not understood well by society, and are both more prevalent and harmful than people surmise. In particular I am working on developing understandings of the nature of abuse itself, with respect to how people do it, why they do it, and what defines an abusive situation.

ALL of my work in the best sense is building the opposite of abuse, which is decency and understanding and those types of things. I am grateful at every point of my life, to have the opportunity to develop such a science. Our human existence is at a challenging point these days. While I respect all of the positive agendas out there, with respect to the environment, justice reform, and kinds of other issues, for me it is about building a positive human conversation, for if we cannot talk to one another, how can we then resolve things.

Every day is a new day.

Ty

admin — Wed, 26 Dec 2018 20:00:45 +0000

False definition: A “fascinating” facet of emotional abuse: Towards a decent society

admin — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 00:07:33 +0000

For those who wonder, a major facet of developing the Science of Inner Strength, has to do with have extensively experienced AND studied emotional abuse. This vastly unknown quantity, acts with retribution and impunity in our society. One of the key cruel tools of emotional/psychological abuse is the interest on the part of the abuser, in falsely defining another person or persons. It is in this way that an abuser can falsely elevate themselves and satiate the true sense of inferiority that in the deepest places they feel.

So, in order to falsely elevate themselves in sick and sadistic ways, they will denigrate and attempt to falsely define others. This false sense of superiority is the disease of our times, I believe. So bloodthirsty, in a desperate sense is such a person that they will wield their opinion like a whip, irrespective of the pain and trauma they inflict on others. It is this sense of almost being right as well; that makes these people so hard to detect. Compassionate genius is about detecting this behavior and helping society overall.

Discernment for challenging times: Not right and wrong: Right and almost right

admin — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 21:17:10 +0000

I read a wonderful quote recently, as to the power of discernment. The quote stated that discernment was “not the difference between right and wrong, but the difference between right and almost right.” That seems like a potentially potent concept for these most challenging of times. It is relatively easy to know the difference between right and not right. In these times, where there is so much information and people expressing their opinions, the harder concept is really to discern between what is right and what is almost right.

Being almost right is easy. You have a sense of what most people will say, and then say something that is somewhat along those lines, and you are just about there. To be accurate, to gauge what is actually happening in situations, is a much more difficult task. That is the work of genius, or at least wisdom. Being right means going the extra mile, finding the real answer to situations. Implicit is the sense that a person, will care, when they make the journey into accuracy. Thank you for today.

admin — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 16:41:29 +0000

Erev Thanksgiving: Mixing some colloquisms, there :)

admin — Wed, 21 Nov 2018 16:16:22 +0000

On the eve of Thanksgiving; it is a time to be grateful for sure; and realize that I basically have everything I need to carry out my mission. I was blessed to be out passing out some brochures today. It is a wonderful feeling, sort of, lol; to have something to be out disseminating. It is challenging, and yet that is where the successes come. I am grateful for having what I have, and being able to do the work. Thanksgiving is supposed to be very cold in Boston tomorrow; so I am delighted I got most of my running around and stuff done today. I believe I can make it through the holiday, without going out, as a new pal encouraged today, lol.

I am at peace in the midst of challenging circumstances and in some ways, you cannot ask for more than that. Learning to be at peace, wherever you are, is an honor for sure. Such skill relates to having a trust that everything is happening for a reason, as well. Said belief is a deep blessing.

A great week, patience and perserverance; keeping at it.

admin — Fri, 16 Nov 2018 21:53:43 +0000

Jon Myers, The World's Best Mediator

On the trail, in wonderful Newton, with love and thanks to all

admin — Wed, 14 Nov 2018 14:56:03 +0000

Ahh, the old sideways picture, on a “crisp” day, as a nice woman mentioned to me: Peace out people

admin — Mon, 05 Nov 2018 16:00:21 +0000

Our current legal system, and related matters

admin — Tue, 23 Oct 2018 18:08:32 +0000

My personal experience, pertaining to our divorce system and that kind of thing; along with having experienced intensive emotional abuse emanating from my own family of origin; speaks profoundly to the need for society to wake-up in some ways. That is the beauty of my story: It is that things being amiss in greater and lesser ways in society accumulated into a perfect storm of events. I choose to see that perfect storm, as a divine calling, or blessing even. I was deemed as strong enough to withstand that type of collective insanity being directed at me. Like a sculptor I suppose, I was given so much raw claw, to shape something new and beautiful.

We cannot underestimate how parts of society, beginning specifically with divorce and including things such as police, lawyers, judges, the whole nine yards is geared to proffer from what is really other peoples’ fall down, especially as it regards children and families. I say what I say with a ton of love for America and its legal system, police and lawyers. We must love families.