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The unbelievable nature of my story

admin — Tue, 18 Sep 2018 17:19:44 +0000

I do not know everything, but I know that I have been through one of the all-time true stories, whether it is ever seen as such I cannot know. It is as if a cyclone of unprecedented proportions attacked my life; AND in true Science of Inner Strength fashion, it gave me the opportunity to grow and change in unfathomable ways. Still, every now and then, it is worthy to step back and assess what has happened, as a phenomenon unto itself. The perfect storm if you will, was just a startling constellation of circumstances beyond my control, from divorce law, to an unhinged familial situation, to more and more and more.

On some level, the salient thing is to look at the net effect of ALL of it, on me as a person. To say that the effect on me, was humongous, and like night and day, would be an understatement. Such a storm provides us with an opportunity to grow and change. This is where the Science of Inner Strength and accompanying purpose comes in; by developing character.

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admin — Mon, 17 Sep 2018 13:56:43 +0000

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Wishing the best for ALL

admin — Thu, 06 Sep 2018 13:41:54 +0000

I am grateful that my life has grown in a way that if I encounter a challenge or even a rare conflict; on some level, I mainly want the best for all parties. The realms of understanding and compassion have entered my life; to see that people acting unreasonably, mainly have deep pain and/or problems of their own, and along with preserving my own interest, in the main, I do not wish to add any additional pain to them. It is a duality, as in sometimes, people who act so hurtfully do not know better and cannot stop it.

While these lack of understandings do not excuse peoples’ behavior, it does allow for more creative solutions to emerge, more than just a “me vs. you” type of dynamic. Everybody wants the same basic needs of success and recognition; it is just hat some people are not emotionally developed to the point of pursuing these things in a healthy manner. The role of a mediator can account for these type of things. Restorative, rather than punitive justice can bring great resolutions.

A gut check reveals the rightness of my cause

admin — Fri, 24 Aug 2018 16:17:35 +0000

I dug deep today, and reflected on the journey that has brought me to this point. Buried deep inside me, was a sense that I am really fighting for freedom and justice and those kinds of things. While, intellectually and more I have believed that; it was further reassuring on another level, to realize that however challenging it can be, I am truly fighting for basic American values of liberty and justice. You see, there are facets of our society and legal system that have gotten challenged and moved away from our cherished American principles.

It is not easy; there are surely moments where one can question the scope of the journey; yet this understanding today, added a layer of clarity to my mind. A step back from the fray, I am grateful to see that there is both a true merit to what I am doing; AND enormous obstacles in American culture that stand in the way of our society functioning in a fair and egalitarian manner. A false sense of superiority is at the root of those challenges.

It has been a while, dear “little blog:” A moment worthy of celebration

admin — Wed, 22 Aug 2018 13:15:23 +0000

Once derisively referenced as my “little blog;” I find some wonderful solace in my friend this morning. It is a terrific moment to reflect and really celebrate my work, journey and certain results. I have been able to take stands that people only dream about. While I quest for final results and all that; it is a worthy moment to celebrate the struggle itself, as well as what I have become in the process. One cannot really recognize the changes that have occurred, without coming for air, and celebrating in essence.

Whatever comes of it, I have been anchored in tooth and nail battles for peace and justice for “decades” now; and it worth celebrating just that. I must face massive levels of inequality, for as long and hard as I have fought, without reaching certain destinations as of yet. So my work is a huge contribution to chipping away at that iceberg of inequality already, and I must embrace that. Surely too, becoming in the main, a happy, determined, kind person is another true reward. Happy August 22, 2018,

Thanks,

Jon

The long day’s journey into night

admin — Tue, 31 Jul 2018 20:28:12 +0000

Well, I just saw a quote, indicating that the last mile was the longest one; so I will go with that for the moment, encouraging me, not to give up, to deepen my faith, to go on a tad longer. An amazing situation that I have been working on to me; just appeared so irrational that I had to pull back and trust God, and in essence let it go a tad. Should I pick it back up or just continue to trust? It was really uplifting to pull back; and then again, am I right on the cusp of victory, with something that I have persevered, with for so long?

Time will tell. I am not giving up; just taking one step at a time. I do not have one more tool, in my arsenal at the moment. I am like a ship going through an iceberg; actually it is funny, I recently saw a movie along those lines, where a Russian ship saved two whales that were trapped in an ice wedge. A long journey for sure… Thanks.

A once in a millennium story: “It’s my story, and I am sticking to it,” lol, credit a guy named Dale Arnold for that quote:

admin — Tue, 24 Jul 2018 20:54:14 +0000

I truly believe that my story is a once in a millennium one. One of the facets was to endure and survive, even thrive through what I would call the world’s worst case of emotional abuse that has extended thirty years now. True to the Science of Inner Strength, I used that situation as an opportunity for unfathomable learning and growth. Emotional abuse can be one of the most horrific types of human behavior, due to its devastating nature itself, and furthered by the sense that it is relatively invisible, and people do not know enough about it as of yet. To me, not only because I have developed a science around these issues; it is so crucial, because its equal and opposite sense is the element of decency in society.

In other words, a full turnaround in society can begin, by understanding emotional abuse. A turnaround away from the crass, even abusive nature of things, in society today, and towards our basic decency and human understanding. The intensity of the emotional abuse I suffered, led to great understandings. Thanks.

The really long and winding road, lol

admin — Wed, 18 Jul 2018 19:11:28 +0000

Wowsie, when I began Calm Interventions in 2003 or even began developing the theory around 1996 in some ways; not to mention earlier work, I had no idea what I was getting into. The rocky terrain, the ups and downs; the sheer stamina involved are things I could not have conceptualized, because I really had no experience with such things.

That is where things, like purpose and determination come in; as your vision and commitment is really tested through ALL of those years and situations. I am grateful for each and every one of those challenges, successes and unexpected situations, as they have uniformly added experience, learning and even wisdom to these broad shoulders and still somewhat handsome head, lol. The journey continued yesterday and today. I am thankful I had the resilience to stand for what I believe, as far as my children, myself and this world. It is challenging and that what builds character and forges our ideas.

The road is long and really winding, yes; and as my old somewhat hero Maxwell Smart would say: “And loving it. Thanks.

Profoundly, a sense of a better world

admin — Wed, 04 Jul 2018 15:21:20 +0000

That is my vision, my life, my work; that of a better world. There is such a practical and moral mandate in our world, especially for our younger people, to create a sense that’s our world, can be a better place. There is so much negativity that not only does our world need it, but our young people, may not have been touched by that sense of optimism that is necessary to uphold and uplift society. That is my work, that is Calm Interventions work; that is the work and world of The World’s Best Mediator creating a better planet.

Coming from our inner strength, aligns us with our goodness, our sense of wanting to do well, and even our commonality. Most of us, want a better world, and we need those people and philosophies that will uplift us. I am grateful that I have been able to come this far, in the development of a philosophy. Today being, July 4, 2018, among other things, I convey wonderful appreciation to our dear United State of America, on our 242nd birthday. Happy birthday!

My stand for decency, and confronting evil:

admin — Mon, 02 Jul 2018 15:22:57 +0000

For reasons, I cannot explain, a higher power has put me in a position to confront a fundamental fallacy, even an evil of society. It is my aim, in confronting this evil, to ultimately point towards decency; and most people will join in that. It remains unclear, who is the biggest purveyor of evil behavior towards my family and me, among a “small” number of people; yet I do not know everything, but I know the fight is appropriately joined on my part. I cannot and will not tolerate awful behavior and particularly as it gets as far as evil.

BTW, evil is a specific thing; is it not a “random” word that universally applies to bad behavior. Evil, pertains for one, to a bleakness of perspective, essentially no good at root. Then, evil will engage in totally disruptive and false tactics, aimed to belittle and confuse. Third and related; evil will attempt to appear as good, because evil knows what good is, and further knows that evil cannot ever act as good. So evil traffics in subterfuge and disguise.