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Constructive revolution; I must say that:

Perhaps that is my role, to lead a constructive revolution of the courts of American. I mean there is a reason I am in Boston, the founding place of the American Revolution. Constructive means from the inside, knowing the ins and outs; aiming virtually solely to help, surely non-violent ALL the way!

Yet, it is a revolution, not an evolution I believe. Too many people are getting stepped on, too many people are getting harmed, by “reckless” lawyers and other influences of the legal system. Dignity and decency must be restored on every level. Not to mention, in Boston, the leading Court House is actually named the John Adams Courthouse. If there ever was a great American revolutionary it was John Adams; I am extremely thankful to follow in his footsteps.

The aim of the constructive revolution is much more fair and better treatment of people within the American legal system. I am speaking mostly from the civil side, as thankfully I do not know the criminal side so well. I am speaking in the divorce and family law area!

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It really must be understood: The Borderline Personality Type and how she makes a mockery of life:

As I have studied the entire issue of deviant personality types; one issue stands abundantly clear and must be understood: The Borderline Personality Type for one, has no interest in either a rational discussion or a rational outcome. The Borderline Personality Type’s method for moving through life is essentially to make a mockery of life, relying mightily on supreme powers of manipulation. People will recall Jody Arias, who was diagnosed as a Borderline Personality Type, and the layers of deceit and the realms of manipulation that she relied upon.

The stunning thing for people to understand is the difference between our common expectations of interactions, and what it is to deal with a person with a Borderline Personality Disorder. Most of us have grown up with the sense that¬† most conversations or interactions have a reciprocity, or a give and take. When dealing with a Borderline Personality Type, there in essence is no other side, in terms of reason or respect. It is new to the culture to understand that some people will solely take, not give to others “permanently.”

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Let the sunshine In: End the age of the brother’s hatred:

This old song, still swims within me; perhaps it has to do with fact that I saw Hair, as kiddo, circa 1969 on Broadway. More it speaks to my heart. In some ways, I, and my family was for the sake of discussion was subjected to a savage psychopathic type of attack of hatred. I mean I can get fancy with a lot of psychological terms, but for the moment, let’s just call it hatred.¬† I do not hate much in the world, but I do look down upon hatred. Oh, where is the song. Oops there it is. kjxSCAalsBE

Anyway, hatred is so awful; it truly is the characteristic of those empty inside. Ironically some of the emptiest, seem to speak in terms of “religion.” I put that in quotes because those who practice what they preach can belong to any tribe or religion as far as I am concerned. It is those with really no true beliefs inside, who insist on dogmatic rituals and the like, forgetting or abnegating the notion that the essence of religion is really about kindness and goodness for sure.

So I have a story to tell, many of them in a way; which one that emerges is a work in progress. I do believe I have written over 83,000 words on the current path; lots of work. Still perhaps in a larger Biblical sense, my great work is to outlast the savage tomahawk of hatred that was slammed at me, and in the “oddest” way my family. I must say, it was quite a tomahawk like chop, surely with no offense intended to Native Americans. Indeed, I was in the land of the Sioux, in South Dakota; it was one of the truly inspiring times of my life. The hills are sincerely alive with the heartbeat of the Native Americans; it is quite saddening to think of their fate.

Still my point of the moment is surviving and even thriving despite an unfathomably savage thirty plus years psychological tomahawk chop. Ironic, in that that tomahawk chop on some level was the pathway for much growth, and enlightenment. That chop called out all of my being.

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Unbelievably I did get out to write my book

With this heat, the challenges were unbelieable. Fortunately I am sitting in relative cool at the moment. I don’t know everything but, I know this book really could be something. I am beginning to believe in its contents and themes on a much deeper level, than the beginning steps. Nuff said.

Thank you.

Sincerely,

Jon Myers

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The commonality among really challenged personality types:

Among other things is their virtual total lack of feelings and their derision of others’ feelings. The psychopathic, narcissistic and borderline personality types in essence ridicule feelings, as if we as human beings are not supposed to have appropriate feelings. On the psychopathic side, people will stuff their sense of feelings into their head and intellectualize it, as some ludicrous diatribe, about cultures and notions and the like. What people in those personality types cannot do is acknowledge their own feelings and most definitely cannot express them appropriately.

Qualities such as remorse, empathy, compassion are permanently out of their circle it seems. Further borderlines for instance see the appropriate expression of feelings as a weakness. Deviant personality types will ridicule people who have feelings and even express them appropriately. This is where the notion of sadistic personality types comes in; as for some not only do they truly disregard other peoples’ feelings, but they get a sense of “joy” from the pain others are encountering. Most people do not fit into these categories, but they must be aware. Sincerely,

Jon

 

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One other point: As I said awhile back:

Jody Arias’ best move would have been to call it a crime of passion. She could have argued that she snapped. In the “oddest” way, her Attorney Nurmi arguing this “snap”theory only at very last minute was a virtual admission of guilt. The last minute fourth theory if the jury was smart, which I tend to believe, only served to reveal the lie of everything else.

Honesty is the best policy in a general sense. The world cannot stand much more deceit. Truth is painful at times, but the best horse to ride!

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Arias verdict reached:

I kind of expected it. The jury wanted to take its time, as a human being’s life is on the line. The jury surely did not want to be a Casey Anthony jury, given the time and attention paid to this case. i believe society must be extremely judicious in considering the death penalty; to be precisely clear as not act in vengeance, solely justice. I respect the fact that many people do believe in the death penalty. At least in this case, the penalty phase will be considered as an entirely separate matter.

I believe what truly works against Jody Arias, is the level of manipulation in her presentation. Like a true borderline personality type, on some level it is all a game, a sick heinous game, with other peoples’ lives in play.People, I believe will see the lack of a redeeming change in her perspective, as a potentially damning factor.

At this point, I will wait like millions of others. I just pray as usual for justice, not weakness, not vengeance. Justice is our highest and “best” goal!

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On further thought, I would not get all to celebratory here:

While the response seems great. A warning from of all people Russian President Putin about the Chyneian(sp?) seems well in order. On the larger chessboard of life; it almost seems like these young brothers, could well have been used as operatives, yes; but also as Guinea Pigs to test the US and even Boston response to things. Putin had warned the US, in the last few years about the dangers of these rebels in general. The two Boston area brothers were very tough, but perhaps not their A team, and in and of themselves they did elicit a massive response. As I say, the response itself was great and many must be thanked, as I did on a personal basis to one law enforcement member today, as well as the medical community and many others, but the point being a tad of celebration may be in order, but vigiliance may be a more enduring quality.

They did draw out and reveal our hand a bit, which seemed extremely strong, but going too far would be inapproriate! Go Celtics. Thank you.

 

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Endurance AND light:

It was wondeful to hear most of the speakers today speaking in terms of extremely uplifting messages, culminating in the President referencing endurance. I recall an extremely challenging presentation I made last fall, it was do demanding in a way, that when I came home and wrote, and even while I was there, I could only think of one word: Endurance. For those committed to good, there can be no relenting in the ultimate and ongoing commitment to good things and a sane and rational world.

Equally inspiring were those words expressed across faith lines of light over darkness, Gov. Patrick himself spoke in those terms, and references to the Jewish faith by both the Islamic leader and Cardinal O’Malley. Those who have or seek the facets of light, they are there; even when very tiny we must cherish them, kindle them, and nurture those kernals to a robust roar or strong flame of peace and justice. Yes, it was a great day for Boston, and unbeknownenest to many, I have worked for and reflected Boston values for “decades.”

Thanks.

 

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Okay, let’s get this straight, am I changing the world, or is the world changing me?

It’s a love affair, working both ways, I suppose. I mean, I just had another long-simmering under the surface type of situation, where I went and in an appropriate fashion asked the gentleman, in an extremely appropriate fashion about it. The long and the short of it was that he said there was nothing there, and there had been, as well as the fact that at least I asked, and it gave me an opportunity to let him know where I was coming from.

Thirty three years in Boston, this year; I am no Jonny Come Lately. I have paid the dues of a “New Englander” as he put it, and we move onward. At least I also got to do an update or two to www.theworldsbestmediator.com It is time to have a tad of fun, no? I mean all work and no play, makes The World’s Best Mediator a dull boy, I suppose. Although the work does seem to be engrossing. One step at a time; one day a time, and “all of that, and all of that.”- Dunne.

 

 

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