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How sweet it is:

Floral Street/Avenue

Floral Street/Avenue

Back on the brochure trail. Today it was out on Floral Street/Avenue again in Newton Highlands; a wonderful run. It has been an unfathomable piece of work to get back out on the brochure trail. Let’s just say that the opposition to progress can be extremely intense sometimes. I do not know everything, but I know that forward progress, is ultimately stronger than the forces of resistance.

A major chunk of work was done, in recent days/weeks to overcome some intense resistance yes; AND I am extremely grateful that I did not give up. There is a message with this brochure; it is a wake-up call for society on some level, and I am just grateful that I am in position to deliver it, by land and air, lol. Anyway, it is getting time for lunch. I am wondering if I need to resume Twitter again, or let that one rest; whether to do more brochures today, although I have some plans for the evening. It would remind me of old football two a days. Once is enough.

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Perhaps I overreacted to a message yesterday morning: A greater family, with boundaries:

Maybe a call or two were unnecessary. What a beautiful day anyway. I am wondering, and wondering; the entire notion of a greater family. The entire essence of my work on some level, is for the common good, be it mine, my sacred children’s and/or society in general.

You do wonder, if and when people get to understand what boundaries are, if they can come to a sense of a bigger and better family. One of the grave lessons I have learned over the past eighteen years is how much family can help or hurt you, depending on its predilection. With ALL of what is going on in our world today from terroristic threats and even actions, to rare diseases, to a massive questioning of purpose; family in a positive sense is needed more than ever in our world.

Family is prospectively that true buffer, or at least it can be. Lessons have not been learned well, in a fair number of cases, and people either abuse or do not understand the strength represented in family. Smart ones, will learn.

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We are the Champions

as this video attests: champ

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A revolution through Chestnut Hill:

Life is a miracle sometimes. Here I sit at my Chestnut Hill mobile office, awaiting can you believe this!? A proof of The World’s Best Mediator posters; yes nearly 2′x3′ posters. What was that old expression? Look, ma no hands. BTW, I used to always feel at home in Chestnut Hill.

I never thought the centerpiece of the day would have involved movie sized posters. Thank goodness to young Robin formerly of Earlham College, who insured I caught my transportation to Chestnut Hill. Thankful, thankful, thankful; just like Gomer Pyle used to say.

Love,

Jon

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He ain’t heavy; he’s my brother:

It would be extremely difficult to overstate, the level of understanding I have gained with regard to family dynamics, and how the actions or emotions of a certain member of a family can affect or influence the family as a whole. When, we grew up, we heard Michael Jackson or was it Donny Osmond sing: “One bad apple don’t spoil the whole bunch…” and yet different situations reveal, that one bad apple can do an enormous amount of harm. It comes down to different psychological make-ups within families, something that is extremely hard for nurture to overcome, as nature in and of itself is an extremely potent force.

I believe we are coming of an age, where these rubrics can be more understood, as for instance parents would in some situations feel a terrific amount of shame or guilt for the behaviors good, bad or indifferent of their children. Today, it may not be widely understood, but more so, that in certain instances parents are not the root cause of their children’s behavior; nor should they fear or panic about things like divorce or other previously perceived shameful events. What I am getting at is that people can take or adopt a view from childhood that can be in a factual sense, enormously untrue, and yet bring forward that perspective into “family” history.

A family in general, can fear the perspective brought forward by that inaccurate party, and in essence formulate a family system, whereby they kowtow or in essence become intimidated by that inaccuracy. I am reminded of an expression  I once heard: “the greater the velocity of the argument, the less the validity.” I believe we all know people who make their arguments with the utmost vehemence and certainty, and in general, I believe society would do well to truly examine the accuracy and validity of these arguments, as I believe there is something called a collective intelligence, and we all basically know at some level, whether a specific argument is true or not, and if not, surely we do not need to be force fed, as to its alleged merits.

So for me, in recognizing the validity of the arguments, I have slowly and surely {emphasis added} made; I have come to terms with the great weight of the wisdom and understanding I have developed, in terms of its societal effect and potential benefit. Sometimes the arguments, findings and sharing of them is such a great weight, it reminds me of the song, from our childhood: “He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother,” in terms of the weight of it!

What I am getting at in some ways is that while it may not have been previously understood; one family member, or say in a marital situation, even an extended family member can have undue influence AND traumatic and extraordinary weight on the actual unfolding of family history.  In essence their thoughts or misguided feelings can set off a panic, in terms of the basic reason and normalcy of the family. As I am continuing my moving efforts for at least part of the day, I am extremely thankful that one of the things I have do, is to hang, one of my lithographs from Thomas H. Huxley that reads: “Time whose tooth gnaws away everything else is powerless against truth.”

That saying is a rubric of my mediation practice and my life itself, believing and trusting that there is a basic synchronicity and common sensability to life, that eventually some how, some way, will unfold; sometimes when we least expect it.

Thank you.

Sincerely Yours,

Jon Myers

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A blessing from Wall Street and the philosophy of “Turning hard times into better times:”

As referenced recently, a couple of transactions years ago on Wall Street ran into a mishap with some paperwork and misunderstandings and all the like. The person brought it to my attention years later and in a way was overly umbraged, as it was an error beyond my control. Still there was a problem there that posed a potentional “hard time.” Rather than get upset I calmly respnded, and we more or less came to an agreement. At some point though I got a phone call, and was asked to “step it up a bit;” I took it as a message I could apply to Calm Interventions.

I have learned in my life, to distinguish between things that may be sharp messages, but are accurate, from those things, which are just aimed to hurt or are random or worse. In this case, I applied that message, not only to that particular situation, but to the creation of the new Calm Interventions brochure. Today, I received an e-mail, from the Wall Street source not only recognizing my efforts, but quoting a basic tenet of, of all things Chasidic philosophy after reading my brochure. The tenent had to do with “thinking positively to achieve positive outcomes. Postitive thoughts influences the outcomes.” I will accept that gratefully as a piece of encouragement for Calm Interventions ways and manners. Thank you to this E.T. who took the time to provide me both with that feedback and that encouragement!

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A great day, when it seems like much was

consolidated in terms of work from previous years and the wheels slowly and surely turning towards Calm Interventions actuation of services. All of this has entailed a rather massive switching of gears from the reality of positively resolving a signature case, to making all of the appropriate adjustments necessary. I saw a great quote recently that stated: “Any change, even one for the better, has adjustments…” and some other things I cannot remember. That quote seems remarkably true to me.

Even when we make changes for the better there are improvements, In human interactions rarely if ever, do things ever sail along for extended periods, without ups and downs, obstacles and the like to overcome. Yet it was Da Vinci, who said: “Obstacles cannot crush me. Every obstacle yields to strong resolve.” Ironically the word resolve seems to have come up at the beginning of the day AND the end of the day. That makes for a great day, when a theme such as that carries through in varying manners.

I am extremely grateful for today.  Thank you.

Sincerely,

Jon

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The curtain coming down on 2011:

A nice dinner, with some great stuff for tomorrow from the Biltmore and then again Nick’s. Happy New Year’s wishes from Michael, Katy, perhaps Brian, the great guy who ordered the Ice Cream Sundae, and then George and John himself at Nicks. Good food and great friends, I am forever thankful. Now getting ready for 2012. Barring anything else, that could be it for 2011. It was a year of hanging in there, as the woman Ms. T. said on the phone on Friday AND working through the storms. May 2012 be a year of increasing authenticity and valor.

Thank you.

Sincerely,

Jon

 

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A great day to be thankful and count my blessings:

Yes I am extremely thankful today; most of all for the work I have done, really for going on sixteen years now. That work I would describe as self-improvement, finding my inner champion, developing emotional understanding and maturity. The door to this depth of character believe it or not virtually totally was opened by challenges, if not adversity.

Benjamin Disraeli, the great British Prime Minister of the nineteenth century is quoted: “Adversity is the great teacher.” In my scenario advereity opened doors and worlds of understanding that I could never have fathomed. The greatest joy I could find in Calm Interventions programs involves truly helping others to find their inner strength and learn from adversity.

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Here I sit with a pair of

Finn’s walking shoes, known as the finest walking shoe on earth, purchased BTW, on sale from Zappo’s. Perhaps they will be one major vehicle for The World’s Best Mediator to glide through town, disseminating Calm Interventions brochures, as he goes. They have a slightly different feel, a European shoe, yet maybe they are just a terrific investment for life.  I must say, I do not really want to take them off; they are initially that comfortable.

And so the curtain starts to fall on another day, already less short in its sunlight than yesterday, we are on the rebound. I wonder how much weather proofing, I must consider for these shoes; tomorrow they are calling for some snow. They are as I said, a European cut, and somewhat bigger in their relative sizing than an American cut. I got a great color though, at the sale price!

The walking program with the brochures seems to be an act of God, and it is a path I to which I must adhere. I do have a cell phone 617-899-0383, or jon@calminterventions.com

Thanks.

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