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Wishing the best for ALL

I am grateful that my life has grown in a way that if I encounter a challenge or even a rare conflict; on some level, I mainly want the best for all parties. The realms of understanding and compassion have entered my life; to see that people acting unreasonably, mainly have deep pain and/or problems of their own, and along with preserving my own interest, in the main, I do not wish to add any additional pain to them. It is a duality, as in sometimes, people who act so hurtfully do not know better and cannot stop it.

While these lack of understandings do not excuse peoples’ behavior, it does allow for more creative solutions to emerge, more than just a “me vs. you” type of dynamic. Everybody wants the same  basic needs of success and recognition; it is just hat some people are not emotionally developed to the point of pursuing these things in a healthy manner. The role of a mediator can account for these type of things. Restorative, rather than punitive  justice can bring great resolutions.

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Quite a remarkable day

It seems like a lot of things are feeling like on some level, they are coming to fruition. Nothing massive as of yet; just a feeling and an ease of things and definitely some good results in certain areas. I am grateful I could work hard today, and for most of this week and the previous week. I went to the wall on a project; AND I was wondering, if I should keep on going at that pace. Fortunately, I believe I decided to slow down and catch up, and it seemed like a wonderful decision.

I had the notion in mind, of running through the finish line, and perhaps it was that kind of thing, on a small level, and even a greater scale. Time will tell. It is just a feeling of championship, after putting myself proverbially out on a limb. As the saying goes, because that is where the fruit is. So, living with uncertainty is a regular part of everything. Even in reaching our goals, perhaps nothing is finally done.

So enjoy the moment. Happy holidays.

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Making History:

A Wonderful day, to reflect a tad. It seems that my recent work has brought me closer to the sense of making history with my work. At issue is, for one, the issue of emotional abuse and people treating people other cruelly. Indeed, I have actually seen evil, a most challenging entity to confront. I am not daunted. I believe that I have a divine destiny, with my life and work.

The areas that this work can begin to take further root, have to do with challenging emotional abuse, and instilling its equal and opposite, which is decency. Also, there is the opportunity to challenge our very court system, particularly in the area of divorce and family law. People would be aghast, if they knew more broadly, how inappropriately our court system can function, especially when it comes to our very children.

I have been given this legacy, this voice, this opportunity to make these points, and as I need be, I will meet them head on. I must be fearless, and trust in my mission. Happy holiday, love, Jon

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Well, with some help from above; I was able to push through today

I feel great, in that, I got what seemed to be guidance from above, with respect to finishing a stage of a project that I have worked on for awhile. We can make all the plans we want; but remaining open to the spirit moving us, is a big plus, because we don’t always know by ourselves, what a situation will require. So, it seems like I completed a stage today, and I feel good about, not over exuberant or that nervous about it either. One of the important things about moving forward in our life, is knowing what our reasons are for doing so. We can feel like we are doing things for the right reason; but to me, it takes a great deal of time and work to really get our words and actions aligned with our values.

For instance; if we want to create a peaceful world, or even a specific resolution, we must act for the most part in a peaceful way, otherwise our words have little meaning. We must act calmly at crucial moments. Jon

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A nice moment today

Peaceful Moment in Newton

Peaceful Moment in Newton

It seems there has been a full rush the past ten years, three years, two years, six months, three months, two weeks, in escalating fashion. It seems, perhaps I pushed through to another level; and in that regard it is good to replenish, to pull in what we have learned in the process. One person, who I did some business with recently had it right in way, saying: “You are an artist.” An artist, with some science as well, lol. I guess, in some ways, I am an artist of sorts; an artist of humanity, in the best sense possibly.

Anyway, it is really nice to have some calm moments or three, under the tree, and all of that. I am wondering about drinking tap water at the moment. I can be very grateful for all of my experiences, as intense and varied as they can be. What a challenge the entire facet of what life is, and then finding our best way to live it. Peace seems a wonderful thing at the moment. Regards, Jon

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Patience and perseverance it is:

Today, I reached an insight in a situation that I have been working on for a while, that was astonishing and unexpected. It is funny, when you are working on something substantial, you can be close to the right answer for a long time; but not exactly on it. It is kind of like one of those games, where you have to get the ball, to fall into the hole. Sometimes, it can take a long time for the ball, to keep going by the hole, before it falls in.

I am not certain, as stepping back a tad, AND sleeping on it, may provide some further insight; still it seems possible. In any event, I read something recently that was inspiring, along the lines: “Don’t wait until you reach your goal to be proud; be proud of what you have done until now.” In that regard, I am proud, a great success, is built upon many smaller successes, so time and patience will tell.

I wonder sometimes, are reaching our goals real success, or is it the journey too?

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Keeping the faith

The journey towards greatness can be a long and winding road, with  many ups and downs. One thing that is most important is the capacity to keep a positive attitude in the face of all of these challenges. I read, an interesting quote by Steve Jobs, this morning, essentially saying that every morning he looked in the mirror, and asked himself if today was the last day of his life; would he be doing something that he wanted to do?

As challenging as it is, I can sincerely say yes, that I am doing the things that I want to be doing. Having the opportunity to work on complex human challenges, is what I love to do. Having a sense that I am developing new human understandings, or at least having a commitment to working to defeat hatred, in our lifetimes, and that kind of thing, is enormously inspiring to me. There surely; are setbacks and a lack of understanding from others. Yet, that is the beauty of doing something new, by definition others do not see it yet. Thanks.

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An amazing moment

Today, I have a wonderful feeling. I worked hard on something; thought is DOA, and then swoop, somehow, the current of life, picked me up and carried me through a certain finish line. I am proud; I had done the previous work, but for some reason, things had slipped back from the front of my mind, while dealing with the real world of life itself. This morning the inspiration came to me, and I actuated that energy necessary to carry me forward; and so it is.

Sometimes, it is those little challenges of life that provide us, with a sense of clarity and direction. So now, I have accomplished something on one front. Perhaps time for a mini-break, before proceeding on the next front. Life can be great, in spite of the pains and challenges. So now, let’s see how things go. Let go and let God, or let the universe pave the way, or whatever floats your boat. I am grateful for the US Open tennis as well. Four US women, and Del Potro versus Rafa, up next Wowsie.

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Defeating Hatred

On some level, one of my greatest life ambitions, is to start the conversation about defeating hatred. The direction of our world, seems so snide at times; AND for the most part it is learned behavior. It most be a fear-based notion of people acting with all due respect like there is something much larger to fear. Such is our world. Where is that notion of FDR: “That there is nothing to fear but fear itself.” The capacity to develop win-win approaches for ourselves and others is so important in this day and age, and the popular mindset, is more a fearful notion of just taking care of our ourselves, no matter how mean and rude we are acting.

Somehow this negative cycle must be broken, and the work of creating positive, win-win elements must be fortified. That is really the essence of Calm Interventions work; helping people develop positive images, develop win-win approaches, and all kinds of things, aimed to bring out our best. I do not know everything, but I know a positive attitude is our greatest aim.

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The man who broke hatred and/or breaking narcissism

That seems like it is one of my aims; to do something significant like breaking narcissism and/or hatred itself. That is what the Science of Inner Strength and my life is about. I am working to get to the core of human animus itself; discovering those reasons and happenstances, as to why people decide to hate and/or act in lesser capacities. A major situation I am working on, has to do with extreme narcissism, and seemingly hatred itself, as to why a person or persons will attack and hate on another person so relentlessly.

It gets to the emptiness inside, which is why the Science of Inner Strength, with respect to its finding the spiritual light within us is such an antidote to animus itself. Once people feel a sense of worth, purpose, even spiritual center within them; they then become much less likely to act in hurtful and distressful ways. We have a lot of hurt people these days, who for the most part do not know it.

With no aspersions, we must help people heal and learn goodness.

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