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A pretty amazing photo, Love, Jon :)

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A mediation miracle

I got the feeling today; that an Assessment that I did in a long-running mediation, may have hit a real breakthrough point, in a rather bombshell way. One of the theories that I have worked on, has to do with very intricate, long-running familial patterns of behavior AND even a sense as to how familial dynamics can change dramatically when a family member marries; where a new members joins a family, and a new familial dynamic can unfold as well. Patterns of behavior can play out over years and “decades;” even generations where people do not really know what is going on, other than there is a huge shift in the familial dynamic as a whole.

Today, when I had virtually stopped thinking about a situation, a rather bombshell theory can to my mind, and I acted upon it, in generating written material to affirm my thought process. It was quite a striking revelation, AND where previous theories that I had advanced were close to this; this one seemed to galvanize a ton of previous work. Truly a “fascinating” process!

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What a time, Paul Simon sang: “These are the days of miracles and wonder;”

Many things have relatively taken on a magical existence to me. One of the areas, I am working on mightily in relationships particularly familial relationships is pushing past the pain towards points of compassion, if not forgiveness. It begins with the sense for one; that one has developed enough inner strength to be able to see one’s hurtful actions, as a function of their hurt. Yes, we must establish boundaries to not be hurt so much by peoples’ actions, but then we can develop some compassion for them if and when we have developed our sense of inner strength. It takes a strong person to forgive or to point the way towards understanding another person’s pain, as the reason for their hurtful behaviors.

The miracle of Calm Interventions and The World’s Best Mediator is to even go the third step, beyond understanding, to work to heal peoples’ hurtful actions and attiudes, by getting to the point of that goodness or inner strength within  them. That may be the best value in our work to get to the point of healing.

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