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False definition: A “fascinating” facet of emotional abuse: Towards a decent society

For those who wonder, a major facet of developing the Science of Inner Strength, has to do with have extensively experienced AND studied emotional abuse. This vastly unknown quantity, acts with retribution and impunity in our society. One of the key cruel tools of emotional/psychological abuse is the interest on the part of the abuser, in falsely defining another person or persons. It is in this way that an abuser can falsely elevate themselves and satiate the true sense of inferiority that in the deepest places they feel.

So, in order to falsely elevate themselves in sick and sadistic ways, they will denigrate and attempt to falsely define others. This false sense of superiority is the disease of our times, I believe. So bloodthirsty, in a desperate sense is such a person that they will wield their opinion like a whip, irrespective of the pain and trauma they inflict on others. It is this sense of almost being right as well; that makes these people so hard to detect. Compassionate genius is about detecting this behavior and helping society overall.

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Discernment for challenging times: Not right and wrong: Right and almost right

I read a wonderful quote recently, as to the power of discernment. The quote stated that discernment was “not the difference between right and wrong, but the difference between right and almost right.” That seems like a potentially potent concept for these most challenging of times. It is relatively easy to know the difference between right and not right. In these times, where there is so much information and people expressing their opinions, the harder concept is really to discern between what is right and what is almost right.

Being almost right is easy. You have a sense of what most people will say, and then say something that is somewhat along those lines, and you are just about there. To be accurate, to gauge what is actually happening in situations, is a much more difficult task. That is the work of genius, or at least wisdom. Being right means going the extra mile, finding the real answer to situations. Implicit is the sense that a person, will care, when they make the journey into accuracy. Thank you for today.

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Erev Thanksgiving: Mixing some colloquisms, there :)

On the eve of Thanksgiving; it is a time to be grateful for sure; and realize that I basically have everything I need to carry out my mission. I was blessed to be out passing out someĀ  brochures today. It is a wonderful feeling, sort of, lol; to have something to be out disseminating. It is challenging, and yet that is where the successes come. I am grateful for having what I have, and being able to do the work. Thanksgiving is supposed to be very cold in Boston tomorrow; so I am delighted I got most of my running around and stuff done today. I believe I can make it through the holiday, without going out, as a new pal encouraged today, lol.

I am at peace in the midst of challenging circumstances and in some ways, you cannot ask for more than that. Learning to be at peace, wherever you are, is an honor for sure. Such skill relates to having a trust that everything is happening for a reason, as well. Said belief is a deep blessing.

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A great week, patience and perserverance; keeping at it.

Jon Myers, The World's Best Mediator

Jon Myers, The World's Best Mediator

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On the trail, in wonderful Newton, with love and thanks to all

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Ahh, the old sideways picture, on a “crisp” day, as a nice woman mentioned to me: Peace out people

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Our current legal system, and related matters

My personal experience, pertaining to our divorce system and that kind of thing; along with having experienced intensive emotional abuse emanating from my own family of origin; speaks profoundly to the need for society to wake-up in some ways. That is the beauty of my story: It is that things being amiss in greater and lesser ways in society accumulated into a perfect storm of events. I choose to see that perfect storm, as a divine calling, or blessing even. I was deemed as strong enough to withstand that type of collective insanity being directed at me. Like a sculptor I suppose, I was given so much raw claw, to shape something new and beautiful.

We cannot underestimate how parts of society, beginning specifically with divorce and including things such as police, lawyers, judges, the whole nine yards is geared to proffer from what is really other peoples’ fall down, especially as it regards children and families. I say what I say with a ton of love for America and its legal system, police and lawyers. We must love families.

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What became OF me, is greater than what happened TO me: Embracing my story:With love.

Whatever happens in my life; the last thirty years or so, surely the past twenty-three have been an enormous unfolding. Assaulted outrageously, by some of those closest to me; it became a matter of what the greater cosmos had in store for me. The situation became a matter of my holding onto the principles and values that were dearest to me, AND allowing life to work its course upon me. As I fought for the things I believe, with good purpose, perhaps the even larger story was how I began and continued to change as a man and a human being. The analogy of a diamond being coal under pressure surely applied.

So, while a lot of my effort has been to develop methods and perspectives to help the world, perhaps the biggest thing was the effect of change on me, and what God and/or the universe has in store for me. The sheer magnitude of emotional abuse and challenge that I faced makes me a survivor of extraordinary degree: That is enough for the moment. Thank you to ALL.

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Kavanaugh, Me too, and Abuse

With the major movement going on in our country right now, for me it still boils down to a basic human issue: The right of ALL people irrespective of gender, ethnicity, race, sexual preference and so on to live freely and free from abuse for sure. What women, are bringing to the table points to a particular problem in society with respect to sexual abuse and assault; AND also points to an even larger societal issue, that of living free from abuse in any form.

My work delves into what is the psyche of any human being who would seek to “impose” an unfair advantage on another in any form, physically, sexually or emotionally. Virtually all abuse really occurs from the standpoint of weakness, combined with unfair advantage and then horrifically the willingness to use that unfair advantage. Women are right to want a world where they are free of sexual abuseĀ  and assault of any kind. We also as a society must get at the component of abuse in any form that involves humans harming one another. Thanks, Jon

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The unbelievable nature of my story

I do not know everything, but I know that I have been through one of the all-time true stories, whether it is ever seen as such I cannot know. It is as if a cyclone of unprecedented proportions attacked my life; AND in true Science of Inner Strength fashion, it gave me the opportunity to grow and change in unfathomable ways. Still, every now and then, it is worthy to step back and assess what has happened, as a phenomenon unto itself. The perfect storm if you will, was just a startling constellation of circumstances beyond my control, from divorce law, to an unhinged familial situation, to more and more and more.

On some level, the salient thing is to look at the net effect of ALL of it, on me as a person. To say that the effect on me, was humongous, and like night and day, would be an understatement. Such a storm provides us with an opportunity to grow and change. This is where the Science of Inner Strength and accompanying purpose comes in; by developing character.

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